a familiar crossroad


Life is always full of its little twists and traps at every turn.

And for many of us who’ve lost our way from our own happiness – find ourselves wrangled by those twists and traps at every turn.

The trick to finding your way back is to realise that there are and will be bad days during the journey back — and know that those trials are what make you stronger in the end.

If you’ve been reading my blog, you know that I’m open about my journey back to my own happiness jumpstarted by therapy.  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again … therapy is a good thing because a therapist simply provides you with the map and pushes you on your way toward your goal.

I’ve had some of those twists and turns as of late … I get so frustrated when I allow myself be drawn into those twists and turns and then, after contemplation, I realise that I’ll never truly escape those twists and turns; however, I can learn how to walk straight through them and allow them to have little-to-no effect or impact upon my life.

And now, the Seminoles find themselves at a familiar crossroad.  Having lost a game that they should have handily won, the Noles must choose if the free fall ends today or if it continues as it did last year.  Obviously, I was upset – and still am – about how Jimbo Fisher called the last series of plays against NC State last week.  And without fail, he continued to do what he always does when questioned about his play calling: defer and deflect:

“Every play was right there,” Fisher said. “Does throwing it make you more aggressive? Or does running it when you’re moving the ball and you had been averaging eight yards a carry on a [particular] play? So, hindsights’s all 2o/20. But I don’t regret any of the calls. We didn’t execute some of the things that we did, and we’ve just got to play better.” – Coley Harvey, Orlando Sentinel

Actually, Jimbo … you’ve got to get better with knowing when something isn’t working and do the opposite.  With 2.47 left to go in the game, FSU got the ball back from NC State after the ‘D’ stood their ground against the NC State ‘O’ and this is how it played out:

1st and 10 at FSU 32        Chris Thompson rush for a loss of 2 yards to FSU 30

2nd and 12 at FSU 30      Chris Thompson rush for 3 yards to FSU 33

3rd and 9 at FSU 33         EJ Manuel rush for no gain to FSU 33

4th and 9 at FSU 33         Punt for 10 yards, out at FSU 43.

And then, NC State drove 43 yards and scored the winning touchdown leaving :16 on the clock.

What, exactly, does Jimbo Fisher mean when he says he doesn’t “regret any of the calls”?  Was he actually at the game?  There was little to no running game in the second half and the only time things seemed to be on track … EJ Manuel was throwing the ball.  Anyone, yes – ANYONE – knows that to close out a game with 2.47 left on the clock means you have to have 1st downs … not just one or two, but probably three — and by gaining that many 1st downs — there would have been at least a field goal or possibly a touchdown to seal the deal.

It’s not just me – this devout Seminole fan that’s still angry, but a great number of other boosters and I’m praying and hoping the entire FSU football team.  At this juncture in the season, Mr Fisher has nothing left but to open up his playbook and use whatever he’s got to win out the season to redeem this unacceptable loss.

No offense to NC State or their fans, but that game was handed to you by a lackluster FSU offense and a less-than-stellar defensive line.  There’s no Coach Bowden to refer to in this case Jimbo … he’s not there anymore.  It’s time to make your move and here’s to hoping that you sideline your ego and lack of responsbility for your players.

And so, my dear FSU … what’s it going to be this time?  A win? A loss? Or a statement that you will NOT be defined by one loss this season?  I’m hoping for the later and here’s some advice that I think might be helpful …

Not matter what, I’m a Seminole – I bleed Garnet & Gold, I tomahawk and do the war chant because that’s what we do!

So, last week was a very long week — lots of things that had to be done and it’s all over.  The problem?  The stress literally held me together and once things de-stressed, my body – as usual – collapsed into a frenzy of sinus drainage, congestion and allergy-related nonsense.  Those of you who have sinus and allergy issues know that it’s just like being sick only more annoying because you know it’s not the flu or bronchitus.  So, in an effort to stay well, I’ve cut myself off from the outside world and all dairy products — which, if you didn’t know, ramp up mucus production and well, that leads to congestion and well, yeah. 😛

I did watch my programmes, but I’m not going to talk about any of that today because … now, it’s time to watch college football for the rest of the day, suck on cough drops, drink “plenty” of fluids and enjoy the rest of my weekend. 🙂  Here’s to a great weekend for you and yours as well!

Peace,

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that proverbial bridge you’ve heard tale of…


Let me say, again, that therapy is so worth your co-pay and time. I cannot even begin to tell any of you just how incredible it is to be clear, focused and on point in the midst of a storm of lies. It’s like it’s all in slow-motion – you know, like a Bruce Lee action shot.

Of course, the fallout after such a storm usually involves regret. This post, however, isn’t about regret at all … it’s the exact opposite of regret: standing your ground because you’ve had enough.

One thing 99.9% of the people, that truly know me, will tell you is that I am laid back and I’m nice … until you give me a reason NOT to be nice. I think the absolute BEST thing to come out of therapy [ a/k/a my journey back to my own happiness ] is that I will not idly sit back or stand by and allow my name or character — or for that matter, that of the people I love and care about … be trampled by someone attempting to save face.

And that proverbial bridge that you’ve heard tale of … You know – the one that connects two people – I watched it burn and fall into oblivion.
Now for the telly recap … It seems that the season finale of the RHoNJ is going to be the tipping point and not in favour of Teresa. I’ve tried to read comments on Caroline’s blog on Bravo’s site; however, I get frustrated after a while.

I’m amazed, and not in a good way, about how many people seem to think that what Teresa said in her cookbook was a joke. The big question is … would Teresa have been laughing? I think we all know the answer to that question.

Anyone with an ounce of common sense would realise that nobody but Teresa and her delusional fans are laughing.

I never found one thing funny about it and I don’t think you can offer a sincere apology when you “think” you’ve done nothing wrong.

Yes, I know — I am watching this show full of drama, but I like watching someone tell it like it is … maybe I channelled a little Caroline earlier this week? 🙂

You know, I’m kinda into Major Crimes now … I think perhaps it’s because I’m – you too? – seeing a softer, more likeable side of Sharon Raydor … and I think she’s become accustomed to Rusty and I think she might even like being his stand-in “Mom” … the writers have me hooked and so, for now, I’m staying put.

Last week’s episode was heart-wrenching because of the fact that the kidnapped teens never had a chance from the onset. While it’s not The Closer, it’s still the same team — well, almost.

And now, FSU enters the start of their ACC schedule with Wake Forest coming to Doak Campbell. I’m excited. I’m nervous. I’m ready.

You’d think I’m playing in the game! I’m just anxious because it’s been a while since there’s been this much excitement around the Seminole Nation.

Although Wake Forest is not going to be a cake-walk — at least not at the start if FSU plays their game –the true test comes when Clemson roars into Tallahassee next weekend. Let me assure you, there is no love lost between FSU and Clemson. Next to Miami and Florida – Clemson is the other one. And if your a Seminole, you know exactly what I’m talking about!

With Boyd, Watkins and Ellington … FSU will definitely have their hands full; however, I think being at home and well, with such an experienced line on both sides of the ball … FSU will take it to Clemson. I am ready to see a Clemson massacre!

I know one thing for sure, I’m feeling better and better every single day … and most definitely, absolutely, 100% …

Here’s to a great weekend!

Shalom,

P.S. Ain’t that the truth?! 🙂